From my newsletter this week:
Making space for yourself is an art, not an accident.
Most of us are so busy with work, family, and social activities that we struggle to find space in our lives: space for personal reflection, rest, creative work, and presence. Cramped by our schedules, commitments, possessions, and even some of the things we enjoy, we fail to make spaciousness a priority.
Yet spaciousness is essential to self-development, personal creativity, and the imaginative achievement of our dreams and goals. Without spaciousness, we become like hamsters on the wheel of life, running in predictable circles, but going nowhere new. I have been experimenting with building an Alchemy Leadership Master Class to help people create more spaciousness in their lives with just a small commitment of 15-30 minutes a day. In this class, which I am currently testing via HiveQuest.com, there are two weekly challenges for five consecutive weeks designed to help you find, create, and defend spaciousness as a core element of your success: professionally, in relationships, and for your own well-being.
Here is a sample activity from the first week of the 5-week Spaciousness class. Try it, and let me know how it goes.
For the next 7 days in a row, set a special alarm in your phone at the same time each day that says, “Be here now.” When it goes off, stop whatever you are doing, excuse yourself from others if you need to, and take three full minutes (180 seconds) to do nothing other than breathe deeply. Focus on the feeling of your lungs filling with air, and pushing air back out.
Set a stopwatch or meditation timer on your phone so you don’t have to keep checking the clock.
If you find your thoughts wandering to other things, gently return yourself to your breathing by saying or thinking to yourself, “Now, I am breathing in. Now, I am breathing out.”